If a relationship has to be a secret, get out of it.


Celebrities can help bring mental illness out into the open. More of them are speaking out about their experiences, among them Nobel prizewinning economist John Forbes Nash, actress Patty Duke, Brooke Shields and Tipper Gore.

If you suffer from a mental illness, you can decide who to tell and how much to disclose. Being open about your condition may be a risk but besides gaining support, you will unburden yourself from carrying a heavy secret. But it  should not be a secret at all.  If a relationship or something that is bothering you has to be a secret, get out of the relationship and unburden yourself of the ‘secret’ and you will feel easier. It will also be one small step toward bringing mental illness out into the open.

Monitor the media, join a support group and you  might not be one of the typical relatives of a mentally ill person – whose families are usually in chaos. The parents are searching frantically for answers that can’t be found. Hope turns to  despair and there are many families that are destroyed no matter how hard they try to survive.

Our family was chaotic when our son was ill and I found little to laugh about, but once, in the middle of the night, I thought back to a trip to London my husband and I had taken and the following incident made me laugh till I cried.

I was crossing the Tower Bridge in London and failed to hear the warning signal as a plane or a helicopter flew overhead at that inopportune moment. The bridge started opening. while I was halfway across. I grabbed the railing and held on tightly as it went up into the air. As the bridge rose to its full height, shocked motorists got out of their cars and informed the bridge attendant what was happening. He lowered the span after several minutes and as I came down with it, I fell on my face and bruised my forehead and nose. I was released after treatment at the nearest hospital.

Whenever I thought of that incident, I laughed.

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About Jill

Author of books and articles on support and experiences of living with a mentally ill family member. My aim in blogging is to let others see how a loving family, with a father and husband who is able to give unconditional love, can help the family cope. Many call me the blogging grandma.'

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