Alter your expectations. Learn to forge new dreams. Take one day at a time



At the support group for parents with a child suffering from mental illness, I learned about the various emotions parents experience when they discover how severe the repercussions of mental illness are for a family. Each one of us mourned a young person whose life had changed: shock, loss, grief, fear, confusion, ambivalence, guilt, helplessness, despair, sadness and hopelessness were common reactions. I realized that most of my problems in coping with my feelings came from doing so without the added comfort of extended family and close friends. But, how could they possible grasp the enormity of the problem if it had taken us so long to understand it?  Some never did.

I asked; “How can I avoid regretting my hopes and dreams that have become so unrealistic?”

 Someone replied; “Don’t wait for your child to fulfill your former expectations. Alter them. Learn to forge new dreams. Take one day at a time.”

Of all the advice I ever received, take one day at a time proved to be the most helpful.

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About Jill

Author of books and articles on support and experiences of living with a mentally ill family member. My aim in blogging is to let others see how a loving family, with a father and husband who is able to give unconditional love, can help the family cope. Many call me the blogging grandma.'

One thought on “Alter your expectations. Learn to forge new dreams. Take one day at a time

  1. Elaine Benton

    Taking one day at a time is indeed sound advice. Whether it is ill health, bereavement or some other life changing situation, former expectations, hopes and dreams have to be altered accordingly. It does not help clinging to former aspirations – one has to move, one step at a time, one day at a time. I read your blog every day, and thank you Jill for sharing your experience and insights.


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