ALTER YOUR EXPECTATIONS. LEARN TO FORGE NEW DREAMS. TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME …….
At the support group for parents with a child suffering from mental illness, I learned about the various emotions parents experience when they discover how severe the repercussions of mental illness are for a family. Each one of us mourned a young person whose life had changed: shock, loss, grief, fear, confusion, ambivalence, guilt, helplessness, despair, sadness and hopelessness were common reactions. I realized that most of my problems in coping with my feelings came from doing so without the added comfort of extended family and close friends. But, how could they possible grasp the enormity of the problem if it had taken us so long to understand it? Some never did.
I asked; “How can I avoid regretting my hopes and dreams that have become so unrealistic?”
Someone replied; “Don’t wait for your child to fulfill your former expectations. Alter them. Learn to forge new dreams. Take one day at a time.”
Of all the advice I ever received, take one day at a time proved to be the most helpful.