And I pray that one day, someone will be kind to me when the time comes …

A person suffering from Alzheimer’s disease needs to be productive for as long as possible. Whatever he/she can do is fine, be it playing a card game, painting, drawing or even playing a board game. If that person has a hobby, try and keep that interest going even in a lesser manner..

 I think that it is very important to treat this kind of patient as an adult and not like a child. No one likes to be spoken to as if they are a kid.

His/her expressed feelings should be taken seriously.

They should live in a safe, structured and predictable environment.

Going out should be undertaken at least once or twice a day.

I found that physical contact was important. This can include hugging, caressing or even hand holding.

After hearing the shocking diagnosis of Alzheimer’s, my husband’s denial allowed him to collect himself after hearing the news.

It is essential that a care-giver use humor. There can be times when the care-giver might want to continue sleeping but the patient wants to go out the moment daylight seeps into the apartment. A joke would be appropriate here. My husband often saw early risers straggle into the street for their early morning walk.

 It never ceases to amaze me that someone who once hosted such a brilliant mind, could be vanquished by this illness. Caregiving is a lonely thankless, tiring, sad, never-ending occupation.

And I pray that one day, someone will be kind to me when the time comes.

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About Jill

Author of books and articles on support and experiences of living with a mentally ill family member. My aim in blogging is to let others see how a loving family, with a father and husband who is able to give unconditional love, can help the family cope. Many call me the blogging grandma.'

One thought on “And I pray that one day, someone will be kind to me when the time comes …

  1. Elaine Benton

    Reading your blog today, took me back to the years I looked after my mother who suffered from vascular dementia. I was fortunate to receive sound advice from a social worker at the time, and I can see that you put into words, my thoughts exactly. Care-giving is one of the hardest tasks I can think of, but many of us have “been there” and understand only too well.


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