SCHIZOPHRENIA, ALZHEIMER’S DISEASE and …….
There are three kinds of people who visit people suffering from chronic illnesses like Alzheimer’s or MENTAL ILLNESS like schizophrenia, for example.
There are the talkative ones: “How are you?” they ask, without waiting for a reply and then they turn to anyone else present and hammer them with questions or anecdotes. Sometimes, they talk at the patient instead of to him/her.
The second kind of visitor arrives, talks non-stop probably due to embarrassment, but his/her words are directed to the care-giver or any other person present; in fact, they talk to anyone other than the person he/she came to see in the first place.
The last kind of visitor comes with a plan. He/she wants to involve the patient, to pay attention to his/her feelings, tries not to contradict or explain too much, and uses gentle humor where possible. When he/she leaves, the ill person is left feeling relaxed, maybe even smiling, and has the feeling that he has taken part in a perfectly ordinary conversation. He/She might even be left with the positive feeling that no one has to be perfect in order to be loved.
I would like to repeat that; No one has to be perfect in order to be loved.