HOW SHOULD ONE BEHAVE ?


PART ONE

Tenacity

It may seem odd to ask how we should behave toward someone with schizophrenia but we really didn’t know.  We soon learned what it was that made it difficult for people with schizophrenia  to communicate.  We discovered that the general public  are frightened as well as embarrassed to hold a conversation with a person who has a mental illness or an allied disorder.

We learned the importance of speaking slowly and clearly to individuals with schizophrenia.

We learned to make our sentences short and as simple as possible.

My son often said; ‘I don’t always hear a whole sentence because my concentration seems to float in and out. And if there is background noise or  a crowd, it makes me very tense and nervous.My dad saw how I was feeling and took me to a quiet place and sat me down until I felt less threatened.’

We understood that our son needed routine and some kind of structure to his life so we did our best to help guide him there.

i have to admit that there were times when I felt as if I were walking on shattered glass and that was when I found it hard to maintain equilibrium in our home.j

  • I had to force myself to keep a smile on my face.
  • I found it difficult to remain accepting.
  • It was hard for me to remain encouraging.
  • I had to make time to listen to him as he could talk about his problems for hours.
  • I tried  at all times to treat him with the utmost respect.
  • BUT, I did not always succeed.
  • There were times when I was critical, gloomy, or argumentative.
  • Yet my late husband on the other hand, showed the utmost patience, understanding and unconditional love at all times. He also used humor to deflect difficult situations which was extremely helpful.

 

 

 

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2 thoughts on “HOW SHOULD ONE BEHAVE ?

  1. Marie Abanga

    Granny,

    It’s wonderful to read this as I prepare to go visit my blogger friend Pam all the way in Vermont. She’s been diagnosed with Schizophrenia since in her 20s, and has battled it till now in her mid 60s. Two weeks ago, she had another psychotic break and is in an institution. She has signed a release form for me, and I see her on Wednesday and will spend a few days with her. I hope it goes well for her and for me too. Loads of love, Marie

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