Category Archives: Cancer caused by Asbestos exposure

Dealing with grief

numbered silver balls 

 I imagined a silver ball bouncing around inside the weekly lottery machine. I knew that it was unlikely that someone else could associate that image with feelings of grief and yet, it was the best metaphor I could come up with that explained the unpredictability of my emotional patterns when I mourned for my near and dear ones who had passed away over the years.

 

Today, grief is seen as a psychological problem that has to be overcome. The grieving person gets time off work for the funeral, is often handed a prescription for an antidepressant, and is then given membership for a bereavement support group.

 

It was pointed out to me that there \was a right way and a wrong way to grieve and if I chose the wrong way, it would be my responsibility to seek treatment, either by taking medication or starting a course of psychotherapy.

 

I didn’t think that I believed in rituals, but I realized that the traditions I turned to while mourning gave me a sense of control over my grieving process and in time, helped alleviate my grief somewhat. Playing a favorite song, walking along the beach or watching a sunset evoked fond memories and brought on a cathartic cry, which was usually helpful.

 

Frankly, from my experience of grief after losing far too many near relatives, three in traumatic ways, I didn’t think that my grief needed to be treated. I truly believe that grief is a part of the human condition similar to fear or anger. Maybe grieving deeply  was the price I had to pay for loving so deeply.a burning candle

LungLeavin’ Day … about Heather

Asbestos Exposure

‘I am reaching out to you today because of your blog! My name is Cameron Von St. James and I’m the husband of one of the strongest people I know. Eight years ago, after our only child was born, my wife Heather was diagnosed with mesothelioma, a rare cancer caused only by asbestos exposure. My wife’s chronic illness taught us the importance of acknowledging and overcoming our fears, something that prevents us all from living life to the fullest.’

‘February 2nd marks the 8th anniversary of Heather’s life saving surgery which involved a risky procedure requiring the removal of her left lung. It is a very special day for me and I  consider it one of the memorable days of my life! We’ve coined the following name for this day – LungLeavin’ Day.’

‘The purpose of LungLeavin’ Day is to encourage and empower others battling their own illnesses and life challenges to face their fears. On this day we celebrate for those who are no longer with us, for those who continue to fight, for those who are currently going through a tough time in their lives, and most important of all, we celebrate life. Each year, friends and family gather at our house around a bonfire where we write our fears on plates and smash them into the fire to represent the conquering of our fears.’

‘This year, we are asking bloggers to participate in LungLeavin’ Day! We’ve created an interactive page that tells the full story of this special day, which can be found here: http://www.mesothelioma.com/heather/lungleavinday/

I’d love for you to check out the page and consider sharing it on your blog to help spread the word about LungLeavin’ Day! It would mean so much to Heather and I.

Thanks so much for your time.’

Cameron

 
http://www.mesothelioma.com/blog/authors/cameron/