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When things go wrong ….


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This jingle was sent to me by a young woman of 18 who was diagnosed with depression and her way of coping is to write jingles. Here is one of them:-

When things go wrong, try and smile.

When your coffee isn’t hot, wear a smile.

When your neighbors don’t do right,                                                                                                      

Or your relatives all fight,

Might be hard, but  – it’s worth a smile.

Doesn’t change much does it? Try and smile.

It cannot make things worse.  Try and smile.

It can always help your case

Brightens up a gloomy place

And it sort of rests your face. Try and smile.

When things go wrong as they sometimes will

When the road you’re trudging seems uphill.

When funds are low and debts are high

And you want to smile but out comes a sigh.

When care is pressing you down a bit

Rest if you must but don’t you quit.

Life is weird with its twists and turns

As each one of us sometimes learns

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow

You may succeed with another blow.

We might have won had we stuck it out.

Success is failure inside out

It’s when things seem worst, that you must not quit.

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Christmas is here again …

christmas treeChristmas is here again. I would like to wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year but, I haven’t forgotten that the holidays can be lonely times. That doesn’t mean that you have to feel alone. Try and remain focused on acknowledging your needs and you’ll be surprised at how  good you can feel.

If your expectations are too high, reduce them. Call friends and ask to be included in their celebrations. Most people love having friends over so this can work. Remember that you are  not alone in feeling alone during Christmas or New Year. So, get together with others and have some fun. Create your own social group. See a movie or plan an outing with a friend. There are many people out there who are searching for a companion, you know. Or, treat yourself to a massage or do whatever you enjoy doing most. If  you can’t be with family or other lvoed ones during this time of the year, call or email them. Reach out to them and they are bound to respond. If the above don’t suit you, volunteer at a soup kitchen because there’s nothing like that place to make you realize how well off you really are. If you can afford it, take a vacation. But, if you are unable to do any of the above, buy some chocolate, get into bed with a good book or find a good movie on your computer and get through the day that way. It’s important to remember that Christmas only lasts for one day.

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Sanity, and the loss of it.

Sanity is something that we all take for granted and I sometimes think that sanity is lost on the sane.  When my son lost his sanity, it was difficult for us to grasp. ‘How did this happen?’ we asked ourselves over and over. We all grieved for his loss.

Whn bizarre behavior, once limited to adolescents, like extreme weight loss, public temper tantrums and exhibitionism, are splashed across the front pages of leading newspapers, we know that this behavior can be the start of a mental illness.

But, if we were able to break the deafening silence and get a program that includes mental illness into our school systems, teachers might be in a position to identify the first signs in their students and guide them toward a place where they will be able to get the help they so badly need.

Molehills into Mountains

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Whenever I worried excessively, I realized that anxiety caused my  mind to fret over a particular problem forcing me to think more about the issue than about finding a solution for it. And as a result, the problem took on gigantic proportions. So, when my thoughts tended to run wild, I blew everything up, losing track of reality and resultantly turned a small molehill into a huge mountain. I assumed the worst, jumped to conclusions, and was unable to think clearly.

During stressful times, when my mind was in what I now call panic mode,  I was prone to catastrophizing and I felt as if I were having a panic attack, even though I was not quite sure what that meant. My mind seemed to be convinced that a panic attack would have terrible results. After all, what did I know in those days? Today, I look on the bright side, find the half full glass and believe with everything in me that things will be alright.

Bring Change 2 Mind

This came to me from the organization Bring Change 2 Mind in England and as it is selfexplanatory, I am blogging it.

A picture is worth a thousand words so I hope that this four minute clip will warm your hearts and introduce you to some members of the Bring Change 2 Mind Family. This film captures the powerful connection that these people have with one another, the common story that they share, and this uplifting message, Thank you for being an inspiration.


One Last Day

The day before my husband died, we’d spent the morning walking on the beach and then eaten breakfast at a beach café overlooking the sea. That night, we met friends and saw the movie Invictus with Morgan Freeman who played Nelson Mandela. My husband was suffering from Alzheimer’s disease and although he had not only been a Mandela fan, he’d done some work for the ANC (African National Congress in South Africa) but at this stage of his illness, the movie made no sense to him. I had hoped that it might jog his memory. I loved the movie. and saw it again on a plane trip.  The guy sitting next to me asked why I was watching a move about rugby. I had to explain that when Nelson Mandela became President of South Africa, he used rugby, the National Sport of South Africa, as a way of reaching the White South Africans.

We had coffee after the movie, drove home and went to bed.  The next morning, my husband went for his regular walk to the park, carrying identification on him as always. He knew the way there and back well and somehow never got lost. But, this time, he did not come home. Instead, a policewoman rang our doorbell and told  me that he was in the hospital and suggested that I go there immediately. I did.

Later I learned that while walking in the park, my husband had suffered what we laymen know as a massive stroke and later that day, it was all over. I’ll never forget the couple who stayed with us until the end. How fortunate that we had managed our walk on the beach, managed a  movie, had coffee together, and, my husband had even managed part of his usual morning walk in the park that he loved so much.

Somehow, I felt as though I had gained one extra day, quality time,  spent positively with him.

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Take a risk

We all know that there’s no point in feeling sorry for oneself, is there? Go for change. It’s no good wasting energy on things we cannot control. We need to stop trying to please others all the time. How about taking a risk? It certainly doesn’t help to dwell on the past. Are you the kind of person that makes mistakes over and over? Do you resent the success of others? Try not to give up too easily. Remember that it’s therapeutic to do something a bit risky.

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